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Friday, January 4, 2008

Can You Quit Smoking When Your Spouse Smokes?

My husband smokes too and is rather uninterested in quitting. He thinks that there is no way for us to quit at the same time because it would cause us both to be in horrible moods. He wants me to go first. Gee, thanks!

He claims that once I have quit for several months, then he will quit too. There really is no point in trying to convince him to quit with me sooner rather than later. No one can successfully quit smoking unless they actually want to quit.

The fact that he smokes too has led to my undoing in previous quit attempts. I can't blame him as I must take full responsibility for myself. However, it certainly made the situation much more difficult. Here are some reasons why:

  • I could smell cigarettes on him and it made me crave them
  • It started to make me mad. If he CAN smoke, why CAN'T I??? Why does he get a reward and I am being deprived? (that is the way a brain enduring withdrawal starts to think).
  • I knew his pack of cigarettes were somewhere! He tried to hide them but it drove me nuts knowing they were somewhere very close by.
  • After dinner was the worst. He would go outside to smoke after dinner and I couldn't join him. Jerk!
  • Back to the fact that I knew his cigarettes were somewhere. I was able to resist the urge to hop in my truck and go to the closest gas station to buy a pack. BUT, I knew they were somewhere in my house...... AH HA, I found them!!! Puff...... puff.....

How about you? Have you ever successfully quit or at least tried to quit and have a spouse that still smoked? Any helpful tips that you can share with us?

18 comments:

Mandy said...

In the past it has been hard for me to quit smoking when I am always around other people that smoke.

I to have heard "I will quit after you quit" before...

I have tried throwing out lighters, matches and anything else you can light you cigarette with. That works for a while but, then I wind up lighting up on the stove...the _one_ thing that you can't throw out.

Maybe if we, here in the group quit, other's will follow?

Kelly said...

That could very well be the case Mandy. Dreagen is quitting on Monday. I am considering Monday too. Do you have a date in mind for yourself??

Mandy said...

I think that my date will be Monday, too. I ordered my Auricular Biomagnets and they should be here either tomorrow or Monday?

Kelly said...

Yikes! I forgot to order my Biomagnets.... I might have to wait. Not an excuse exactly but I want to be as prepared as possible!

Mandy said...

I just checked the tracking info on my Biomagnets and USPS doesn't show anything. They were sent "first class" mail so who knows when they will get here? The person that I bought them from on eBay does offer a Priority Mail option for $4.00 (around that). If anyone would like the eBay buyer information, let me know and I will post it. Then after I receive them I will post a review as well.

Anonymous said...

I quit for 3 months several years ago, and at that time, my husband at 50, who never smoked, got bored grabbed one, and started.. Wth is that all about? I am having a really hard time now, since he thinks thats our socialization time!

Kelly said...

Wow Sue, that is unusual for someone to start smoking at that age. Is he interested in quitting at all???

Anonymous said...

Addiction is a term that is more often than not meant in the negative sense. Getting addicted to anything, even if it is something that is ideally good is not advisable. The word addiction usually makes us remember of all the unhealthy things like smoking, drinking, drugs etc. Among them smoking is undoubtedly the most widespread addiction. Interestingly for most of the smokers who are keen on quitting, a staunch will power is what they actually need as opposed to the modern concepts like chantix. For all those who are unaware of the term, chantix is a drug that assists in quit smoking. However, if you do not have the will power and the mental strength, no quit smoking drug can help you.

Anonymous said...

I have been smoking for thirty-six years. It will kill me. I've quit three times in my life. The first was decades ago. The last two times were about ten years ago. Both times I quit while on vacation with non-smokers, but took up the habit again after about three months of having returned home to my smoking husband. A chain smoker.

We live in a 750 square foot house. I have approached him for about six months to begin smoking outside. He refuses. I really believe that I cannot quit living in a house that another person smokes in. I don't know what the answer is.

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